Don’t worry, this post isn’t going to have any gory details about labor and delivery. I have come to conclude that unless you have been present for an actual birth, you have no idea what goes on in the labor and delivery room. I have also learned that unless you have actually had a baby, you have no idea what mamas go through.
I feel like it is human nature to think that we know it all once we have done something. We earn our merit badge and like to pass on our advice to those who come after us, especially when it comes to having babies. For some reason, though, women tend to pass on horror stories filled with pain and trauma with their advice when it comes to the labor and delivery department. I’m not really sure if this is a.) because their experiences were truly terrible, b.) because it is some rite of passage, or c.) some women enjoy torturing other women. For some reason, there is a lot of fear surrounding labor and delivery. I’m sure it has something to do with the whole watermelon analogy, but don’t let that scare you.
Know that nobody can tell you what labor and delivery is like. You can read books and go to the classes so that you feel prepared. You can never “know” so much and so little at the same time. Some people have a few hours of labor, and some people have days. Some people barely know that they are in labor, and some people experience pain that elicits blood-curdling screaming that fills the hall. People deliver babies anywhere from 24 to 42 weeks, and they do it sitting, laying, and standing under water, in cars, on hospital beds, and at home. There are so many choices from location and delivering doctor (to an extent), to methods and medications used during the process. None of these choices or details make anyone’s birth superior to anyone else’s.
Be confident in your decisions, but don’t be unyielding. I’m no advice columnist, but if I could offer two words of advice, they would be…be flexible. That’s right. It is great to have a birth plan and have ideas about what you want, but don’t get so fixated on the little things that you lose sight on the goal, a healthy mama and baby. In my mind, I was supposed to be induced at term, have at least 12 hours of labor, take a picture when leaving for the hospital (with hair done and makeup on my face), and my doctor was supposed to deliver a beautiful baby boy after a couple of pushes. Instead, I almost had my baby in the car a month early, took no pictures (because I had my hair in a messy pony tail and no makeup on my face), and had a different doctor help deliver my beautiful baby boy. Even though next to nothing went as planned, it was perfect, and he was beautiful! Don’t listen to the people who try to terrify you. Just because it’s unpredictable doesn’t mean that it is scary or terrible. It is all a part of the beautiful adventure of motherhood that awaits you.
It’s amazing how much your mindset can affect your birthing experience. Good luck mamas-to-be! We can’t wait to meet all of your new additions at the store. Also, check out our mommy and me pajama sets so that you can get some great pictures in the hospital after the baby is here! Also don’t forget to tag your munchkins in their hmandbb attire at #bellababystyle on Instagram so that we can watch them grow!